Encourage Fitness – Do As I Say and As I DO

It’s never too late to start a healthy habit, especially with kids.

Parents influence kids every day with words and actions, and when mom and dad regularly encourage kids to be active, they help kids to appreciate fitness and have fun along the way.

Teaching practical life skills is one of the many roles that parents have. Things like how to brush teeth, how to tell time, how to tie shoes, and research now suggests that another one to add to the list is how to be healthy and active.

It’s never too late to start a healthy habit, especially with kids. Kids like to move, and though it is highly unlikely that a child goes from couch potato to Olympian, there are several ways parents can influence their children to exercise.

While verbal encouragement or logistical support, such as driving kids to soccer practice, is important, parents’ attitudes about health and fitness and their own patterns of physical activity are equally as important, since kids often follow by example.

Being active together has shown to have a significant impact on how kids view exercise, but it often goes down as a child’s age goes up. Younger children are more likely to want to spend time being active with their parents than teenagers, so there may be a window of opportunity to use it before losing it when it comes to co-activity.

And even though the sphere of influence on kids can be far and wide from friends to teachers to Sponge Bob, few are as direct and important as parents .

Children are well known for their contrary nature. Tell them to do something, and quite often they will do the opposite. So trying to force children to exercise may not be the best strategy.

Every parent has his or her way of approaching life lessons, but the idea with fitness is to get children to appreciate being active, and have a little fun along the way. “Because I said so” may work for putting the dishes away, but encouragement, celebrating small victories, and doing things together can be effective ways to motivate kids to get fit and stay active. And no child wants their brain to turn to mush because of too much television.

Whether is it sports, riding bikes, a martial arts class, or walking the dog every night, it is important to consistently present each opportunity in a positive light. It may take a bit of time and patience, but when children find the fun in being active, fitness can become a part of everyday life.

When kids are active at a young age, the habit can last throughout their lifetime, and influencing kids to be active at an early age is no different than teaching them the golden rule or respecting their elders. So it’s time to put fitness right up there with teaching children how to ride a bike and that there’s no hiding a piece of broccoli in a glass of milk.

15 Ways to Battle Burn-Out and Still Stay on the Hamster Wheel

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Cover up is a fabulous makeup invention but it only works on the surface. Us Super High Achieving Women know that the only way we can keep going is if we figure out how to take care of ourselves. Lots of pampering is required. What happens when we don’t? Total burn-out that’s really difficult to recover from. How do I know, because it’s happened to me. Now I feel if I can help just one woman avoid burning out, find more happiness and balance in their work or life I know I’m giving something incredibly valuable back.

How do you bounce back from burn out and still manage to keep running on the hamster wheel? Pamper the heck out of yourself and let others join in.

The following are a few ways to accomplish this:

1. Stop Producing False Energy: high carbohydrate and high sugar diets along with coffee are going to give you false energy. Feed your energy naturally by giving in to r&r and cutting out the junk.
2. Stop Working Round the Clock: have a set work schedule and stick to it. Cave in rarely.
3. Vacate for Vacation: Take a vacation and recharge your batteries.
4. Stop Overcommitting: Most women who are battling burn out have an inability to say “No”. Start being super selective and say “yes” a lot less.
5. Take a Mental Health Day: The moment you start to feel like you’re teetering on burn out take the next possible day off and do something completely mindless.
6. Turn Off the Technology: And I mean all of it! Leave your cell phone at home or stop checking it so frequently. On the weekends I only watch about 30 minutes of t.v. and keep my cell phone off. It’s a great way to disconnect.
7. Read: Pick up a totally mindless magazine or book.
8. Stop Thinking and Meditate: Just allow yourself to get lost in your meditative thoughts
9. Gentle Exercise: Go easy on yourself. Go out and walk, swim for pleasure, enjoy a yoga session.
10. Acupuncture: One of the greatest benefits to acupuncture is that it allows you to deeply rest to provide the healing your body needs
11. Massage: Don’t be afraid to schedule an appointment. You may be holding significant tension in your body and the only way to release it is through some body work
12. Head to Your Nearest Ocean or Beach: and walk barefoot in the sand. Spread out a towel and just enjoy the sound of the ocean
13. Laugh with Friends: Surround yourself with those that uplift you
14. Clear Out the Clutter (mentally and physically): get rid of heavy thoughts by working them through with someone you trust and clear up your heavy physical space
15. Dance or Get Dressed Up and Go Out: take yourself out of your space and enjoy a night on the town. A change of environment will do you good.

Ever feel like you’re having a hard time with all that’s going on in your life?

Which 3 things can you do this next week to better take care of yourself?

The Great Carbohydrate Debate!

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To eat carbs or not to eat carbs?  Many Americans still seem confused about whether they should eat carbohydrates or not.  Years ago, some popular diet plans suggested that carbohydrates make us fat.  The reality is our bodies need carbohydrates for energy.

So why all the controversy over carbohydrates?  It may stem from the type of carbohydrates that most Americans choose.  When you think of the typical American diet (and the foods your kids beg for) which comes to mind?

Frosted flakes for steel cut oats?

Apple juice or a fresh apple?

White rice or brown rice?

A candy bar or some trail mix with dried fruit?

The American diet is filled with refined sugars and simple carbohydrates that absorb into the bloodstream quickly, resulting in sugar “highs” and “lows” throughout the day.  These types of foods are typically high in calories and low in nutrition and are associated with unhealthy weight.

Complex carbohydrates, on the other hand, are associated with a great number of health benefits.  They are high in fiber which helps with digestion and slowing absorption into the bloodstream.  Fiber also helps us to feel fuller faster, and stay satisfied longer, which can help maintain a healthy weight.

In other words, you no longer need to fear carbohydrates, but you do need to choose the right ones. Avoid baked goods made with white flour, processed cereals, fruit juices, table sugar, soft drinks, and candy.  Instead choose from a variety of healthier carbs including whole grains, whole grain breads and cereals, fresh fruits and vegetables, legumes, and low fat Greek yogurt.

Enjoy!!

The 5-Minute Solution for Multi-Tasking Mamas

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What do we want our children to take away from their time with us?  We do so much to make their lives rich.  We love, support and care for them.  We keep them organized, help them with challenges and introduce them to our world.  But, what if our greatest impact is not what we do, but who we are being when we are with them?

What if all of the doing that is so well intentioned, is but a drop in the bucket compared to what they observe in us?

If I look at what my children see me do, I can see areas that I am proud of and also areas that need work.  For example, I am kind and courteous to the people I come into contact with throughout my day.  I don’t snap at waiters who bring the wrong order or hang up the phone on the people who solicit during the dinner hour.   Subsequently, I see those behaviors in my children as they mature and grow into compassionate citizens of our world.
And then there are those areas in which I have some challenges to overcome.  For example, I like to get things done quickly and if I am busy and my kids are not moving at my speed, I can get impatient with them.  One of my biggest challenges has always been to allow enough time for my kids to go at their own pace.

I can park the car and be in the kitchen with 5 bags of groceries put away before my children have gathered their belongings and meandered down the front walk.  I multi-task naturally and enjoy the sport of efficiency.  That is how I am wired. And, in fact, our culture applauds that wiring so I can pat myself on the back as I simultaneously put my seatbelt on, start the car, open the garage and back out.

But what are my children learning? They see that at times, unless they go at my speed,  they will be met with frustration and impatience.   And what is all this about?  Primarily, I am trying to get everything done for them, our home and our lives together!  And in the process, I am teaching them intolerance and modeling a style of motherhood that is tense and no fun.   Does it matter that dinner is on the table if getting it there was a crazed and harried experience for all of us?

So, I’ve started to think about any given day and dividing it into doing and being. The doing is easy to list.  I make lunches for my children that I hope they will enjoy.  I make sure they have the clothes they need and that they have opportunities to play with friends.  I am interested in their school day and help them with their homework.  I do things out of my love and commitment for them.  It is easy.

But here is the hard part; taking the time to pay attention to who I am being. If I am running late in the morning, and in a rush to get the kids out of bed, what impact does that have?   If I don’t leave enough time to help my daughter with a last minute homework problem or a clothing crisis, then what is the experience she will take to school?  If I consistently get my son to school just in time to run in before the bell rings, what has he learned about taking the time to prepare for his day?

So here is my strategy: I call it the 5-minute solution.

I am adding 5 minutes to everything I do in my day.  If I think we should leave for school at 8:00am, we are leaving at 7:55am.  If I think the kids should be able to get dressed in 10 minutes, I am allowing 15.  When I wake my kids up in the morning, I am allowing more time for them to actually get up.

So far, it is working well.  I am more often, the patient mother I want to be.

That is worth a pat on the back!

3 Tips to Cut the Junk

“All in moderation” my parents always used to say. The same comes out of my mouth when I’m coaching my clients now too.

I strongly believe that you can eat more balanced when you don’t give up ALL the junk at once. Now let me clear here, there are certain foods I think are incredibly poor choices and I no longer include in my diet. Then there are some that I have every once in a while. Many people make the assumption that they need to throw all of their favorite foods out the window when they’re trying to lose weight or live healthier. I don’t think it has to be all or nothing. I think it’s about adding in the better foods while balancing out the junk.

Let me put it into perspective for you.

If you decide to run a race, you don’t just put your running shoes on and expect to be able to do well without having trained or warmed up first. You need to prepare for it. It’s the same thing with incorporating better food alternatives into your diet. You gradually increase the quality of your food to alter your taste buds and reduce your cravings. Now of course if you have a medical condition in which you can no longer eat a certain food then that’s a different story but for many it’s not the case and they’re looking to either lose some weight or improve the quality of their food.

To make it long lasting and not just a diet or fad you can start with a few simple steps:

  1. Reduce the Food You Have the Most. Take a look at your diet and see what you are eating a lot of. Sugar, white bread, white potatoes, chips, cookies, candy, soda? Look at how much you’ve been eating of that particular food. Are you having it in moderation or are you not able to stop once you start. If it’s the latter then you need to consider that this particular food might need to be eliminated from your diet for a period of time. If it’s not then you may be able to have it in moderation even while you’re gradually moving to a healthier diet or attempting to lose weight. Keep in mind though that junk craves junk. The less you have the more likely you are to not be drawn to it.
  2. Up the Healthy. Include more veggies, fruits, lean meats, vegetarian proteins, nuts and seeds in your diet. The more you include real foods the less you’ll be wanting to be eating foods of little quality and substance.
  3. Don’t Keep Them In the House. I’ve known people who buy their top offender foods and still keep them in the house for their family because they don’t want to deprive them. This is a set up. You’re buying foods that you’re still drawn to and if you have a busy, stressful day chances are you’re going to fall back on them. Don’t buy them for yourself or your family. Slowly begin by incorporating better real food choices that you know everyone will eat and like. Do yourself a favor and let someone else buy them at the store.

The real secret is to try to crowd out the junk by slowly incorporating better quality foods in your diet. Begin by looking at a healthier alternative of the same food you crave. Consider that it’s a transition and that you can always have some of the foods you so desperately love right now. You can have them but in time you’ll actually want them less and less.

What are ways you can begin eating healthier and transition to a better way of eating? How do you think you can cut some of the junk out of your diet?